Do you feel that your relationship is changing for the worse?
Do you find yourself wondering if you are coming to the end?
Does it feel a lot more trouble than it is worth?
Do you find you don’t understand your partner anymore or they don’t understand you?
Are you feeling confused about what you want?
If any of these sound familiar to you, you are not alone. Many relationships experience difficulties from time to time, whether as a result of a painful event, such as an affair coming to light, or where couples come to realise that after many years together, they have simply grown apart. There may be challenges such as financial pressure, physical or mental health problems, grief or loss, extended families, careers, anger, sexual problems or the influence of family members. Alongside these challenges, poor communication and a lack of understanding of each other often results in a relationship deteriorating and rifts deepening.
You may have tried to sort things out for yourself but with little success or have made some progress but feel that you are going around in circles and not really knowing what to do next. Couples counselling can be your next step.
I can provide a neutral space for you to explore the difficulties you’re experiencing in your relationship and to find healthier ways of relating. It’s not my role to take sides, to decide who’s right or wrong or to pass judgement. My role is to work with you jointly to identify and clarify the issues or problems you are facing in your relationship, to support you to identify and express your needs, to agree your goals and to identify the potential and direction for change.
I can help you to understand what triggers disagreements or arguments and support you with being more honest about your behaviours and emotions and the impact they have on the relationship. I will help each of you to express your thoughts, feelings and wishes within a safe, confidential, non-judgemental environment, where you can say what’s ‘really on your mind’. I will help you to communicate in a healthier, more honest way, to understand each other's perspectives and feelings better, and develop new ways of handling disagreements or conflict.
For some people, couples counselling is the start of a longer process of discovery while for others, a few sessions may be all they need to get through a rough patch. It’s a myth that you only need couples counselling when things get really bad. No matter what situation you’re facing in your relationship, even if your problems seem trivial, I’m here to help.